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Worksheets To Use With The Happiness TrapThe worksheets in this compilation are designed to be used in conjunction with The HappinessTrap. If you are working with a coach or therapist, they will probably want you to fill them in andbring them into your sessions.As a general rule, read the chapter first, and then take a look at the worksheet; it should then beself-explanatory.Many of these worksheets you will want to use repeatedly for different issues in different areas ofyour life. I hope you find them helpful.All the best,Russ HarrisChapter 1: Control of Thoughts and Feelings QuestionnaireChapter 2: a) Costs of Avoidance WorksheetChapter 2: b) Avoidance and Suffering DiaryChapter 9: Defusion Practice WorksheetChapter 13: Expansion Practice WorksheetChapter 18: Informal Mindfulness PracticeChapter 20: Mindful Breathing Practice WorksheetChapter 25: a) The Life Values QuestionnaireChapter 25: b) Detailed Bull's Eye WorksheetChapter 25: c) Brief Bull's Eye WorksheetChapter 27: Goal Setting WorksheetChapter 30: Overcoming F.E.A.R. WorksheetChapter 31: The Willingness and Action PlanAppendix: What To Do In A Crisis

How to Get the Most Out Of ‘The Happiness Trap’Reading the BookThere are two ways to read the book. You can either work through it slowly and steadily, doing the exercisesas you go. Or you can read it from cover to cover very rapidly, and then go back and work through it at yourleisure. You can also enhance the exercises in the book by using the free online resources athttp://www.thehappinesstrap.com/free resourcesStuck or Confused?If you ever get stuck or confused, I’d suggest you join the Yahoo list serve, entitled ‘ACT for the Public’:http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT for the Public/joinThere’s no cost involved. You can post emails to the group if ever you are confused, or concerned, or justbogged down – and you will quickly receive supportive responses from other members of the public and/orfrom the many therapists (including myself) who are also on the list.Prioritize Your Health and WellbeingIf you are a typical reader, then you are already a very busy person. You are juggling multiple demands andrarely have any time left over for yourself. Thus, if you want this book to make a real difference in your life,you will have to put your health and wellbeing above some of the other demands upon your time. Can youschedule in some time for reading? Can you schedule in some time for practicing the exercises? Even 30minutes a day to read and/or practice can make a huge difference. Are you willing to give up 30 minutes of TVor other time-eating activities?PracticeWhoever said “Practice makes perfect” was lying. But practice does lead to improvement. Like any new skills,the exercises and strategies in this book do require practice – they do not come naturally, or magicallyhappen simply as a result of reading. And like any new skill, the more you practice it, the easier it becomesand the more naturalistic.Be PatientBe patient with yourself. As you work through the book, there are times when you will inevitably screw up, fail,and forget things. This is because you are a human being, not a saint or a guru or a superhero. So please,allow yourself permission to be human. And give yourself as much time as you need to get a good handle onyour new skills.Consider Using a CD or MP3 RecordingThe CDs and MP3 recordings available from www.thehappinesstrap.com have been specifically designed foruse with this book. They will substantially enhance the benefits of the book for you. Mindfulness skills aremuch easier to develop initially when you have a voice guiding you.RepetitionI intended The Happiness Trap to be the sort of book that you read not just once, but again and again. Myhope is that after you’ve been through it once, you repeatedly revisit it. The small chapters make it an idealbook for dipping into.Working With a Coach or Therapist:While The Happiness Trap is primarily written as a self-help book for use on your own, it is also a valuableadjunct to therapy and coaching. Indeed the book flows along, chapter by chapter, in much the same way asyou might typically work with a coach or therapist. If your therapist or coach has done some training in ACTthey will be familiar with many of the exercises and metaphors in the book, but probably not all of them, so itis a good idea if they read the book too.You can use the book as an adjunct in two main ways:1. You can read a chapter or two (or three) before each session, then discuss in session how the readingapplies to you, and then practice the relevant exercises during the session.2. You can read relevant chapters after a session, to build on what you have experienced or learned duringthe session.Whichever way you do it, the worksheets from the free resources section can be very helpful; use them asyou are reading the relevant chapter.To Find an ACT TherapistIf you want to find an ACT therapist in Australia, click hereIf you want to find an ACT therapist in USA, UK and other countries, click hereI hope you enjoy reading it and I trust you’ll find it helpfulCheers, Russ Harris

Control of Thoughts and Feelings QuestionnaireThis questionnaire has been adapted from similar ones developed by Steven Hayes, Frank Bond, and others. For each pair ofstatements, please circle the one that most accurately fits how you feel. The answer you choose doesn’t have to be absolutely100 percent true for you all the time; just pick the answer which seems to be more representative of your general attitude.1a. I must have good control of my feelings in order to be successful in life.1b. It is unnecessary for me to control my feelings in order to be successful in life.2a. Anxiety is bad.2b. Anxiety is neither good nor bad. It is merely an uncomfortable feeling.3a. Negative thoughts and feelings will harm you if you don’t control or get ridof them.3b. Negative thoughts and feelings won’t harm you even if they feel unpleasant.4a. I’m afraid of some of my strong feelings.4b. I’m not afraid of any feelings, no matter how strong.5a. In order for me to do something important, I have to get rid of all my doubts.5b. I can do something important, even when doubts are present.6a. When negative thoughts and feelings arise, it’s important to reduce or get rid of them as quickly as possible.6b. Trying to reduce or get rid of negative thoughts and feelings frequently causes problems. If I simply allow them to be, thenthey will change as a natural part of living.7a. The best method of managing negative thoughts and feelings is to analyze them; then utilize that knowledge to get rid ofthem.7b. The best method of managing negative thoughts and feelings is to acknowledge their presence and let them be, withouthaving to analyze or judge them.8a. I will become “happy” and “healthy” by improving my ability to avoid, reduce, or get rid of negative thoughts and feelings.8b. I will become “happy” and “healthy” by allowing negative thoughts and feelings to come and go of their own accord andlearning to live effectively when they are present.9a. If I can’t suppress or get rid of a negative emotional reaction, it’s a sign of personal failure or weakness.9b. The need to control or get rid of a negative emotional reaction is a problem in itself.10a. Having negative thoughts and feelings is an indication that I’m psychologically unhealthy or I’ve got problems.10b. Having negative thoughts and feelings means I’m a normal human being.11a. People who are in control of their lives can generally control how they feel.11b. People who are in control of their lives do not need to control their feelings.12a. It is not okay to feel anxious and I try hard to avoid it.12b. I don’t like anxiety, but it’s okay to feel it.13a. Negative thoughts and feelings are a sign that there is something wrong with my life.13b. Negative thoughts and feelings are an inevitable part of life for everyone.14a. I have to feel good before I can do something that’s important and challenging.14b. I can do something that’s important and challenging even if I’m feeling anxious or depressed.15a. I try to suppress thoughts and feelings that I don’t like by just not thinking about them.15b. I don’t try to suppress thoughts and feelings that I don’t like. I just let them come and go of their own accord.To score your test, count the number of times you selected option “a” or “b.”You may like to repeat this test and see how your ideas have changed, after you have finished reading The Happiness Trap, orcompleted several sessions of ACT. Russ Harris 2008www.thehappinesstrap.com

The Costs of Avoidance WorksheetComplete the following sentences:The thoughts I’d most like to get rid of are:The feelings I’d most like to get rid of are:The sensations I’d most like to get rid of are:The memories I’d most like to get rid of are:Next, take a few minutes to write a list of every single thing you’ve tried in order to avoid or get rid ofthese unpleasant thoughts or feelings. Try to remember every strategy you have ever used (whetherdeliberately or by default). Below is a guide to help you:Distraction: list everything you have ever done to distract yourself from, or ‘zone out’, or take yourmind off these painful thoughts, feelings, sensations or memories.Opting out: list all the activities, interests, events, people, or places that you have avoided or withdrawnfrom, and all the opportunities you have missed out on, because you did not feel good or wanted toavoid feeling bad: Russ Harris 2008www.thehappinesstrap.com

Thinking strategies: list all the different ways of thinking you have tried (deliberately orunintentionally) when painful thoughts and feelings started showing up. Tick any of the following thatyou have done, and write in any others: Worrying Dwelling on the past Fantasizing about the future Imagining escape scenarios (eg leaving your job or your partner) Imagining revenge scenarios Imagining suicide scenarios Thinking ‘It’s not fair ’ Thinking ‘If only .’ Thinking of killing yourself Blaming yourself Blaming others Blaming the world Talking logically to yourself Talking positively to yourself Talking negatively to yourself Analyzing yourself (trying to figure out why you are like this) Analyzing the situation (trying to figure out why this happened) Analyzing others (trying to figure out why they are like this)Substances: list all the substances you have ever used to try and feel better, including foods, drinks,cigarettes, recreational drugs, and prescription drugsAnything else: write down anything else you can think of you have ever tried to make yourself feel a bitbetter, or not so bad, when these painful thoughts and feelings showed up.Once you’ve done that, go through your list and for each item, ask yourself:1. Did this get rid of my painful thoughts and feelings in the long term?2. Did it bring me closer to a rich, full, and meaningful life?3. If the answer to question 2 is “no”, then what did this cost me in terms of time, energy, money, health,relationships, and vitality? Russ Harris 2008www.thehappinesstrap.com

AVOIDANCE & SUFFERING DIARYFill this in at least once a day, to increase awareness around the costs of trying to avoid or get rid of painful thoughtsand feelings.Painful Thoughts/ Feelings/Sensations/ Memoriesthat showed up today Russ Harris, 2008What I did to escape, avoid, get ridof them, or distract myself fromthemwww.thehappinesstrap.comWhat that cost me in terms ofhealth, vitality, relationship issues,getting stuck, increasing pain,wasted time/money/energy etc.

At the end of each day note the defusion techniques you used, in what situation, how often, whether defusion occurred,and any benefits and/or difficulties you noticed. Remember the aim of defusion is not to 'feel good' or to get rid of 'bad'thoughts; it is to help you 'be present' and reduce the influence of unhelpful thoughts and beliefs over your behavior.Defusion Practice FormName of technique (s)Practiced: yes/ noDay/DateIn what situation(s)?How often? Russ Harris 2008Did defusionoccur?yes/ no/ a littlewww.thehappinesstrap.comBenefits and/or difficulties

Expansion means opening up and making room for difficult feelings, urges and sensations – thereby allowing them to ‘flow through’you without a struggle. You don’t have to like or want these feelings – you just make room for them and allow them to be there eventhough they are unpleasant. Once this skill is learned, if these feelings should resurface, you can rapidly make room for them and letthem ‘flow on by’ – so you can invest your time and energy in doing meaningful life-enhancing activities, instead of struggling. Aim topractice at least once a day breathing into and making room for difficult feelings and sensationsExpansion Practice FormDay/Date/TimeFeelings/sensations Russ Harris 2008How many minutes of practice? Used ‘MindfulnessStruggle switch rating, 0 -10?Skills: Vol 1 CD’10 switch fully onyes/ no0 switch fully off (no struggle)www.thehappinesstrap.comBenefits and/or difficulties

Informal Mindfulness ExercisesWe’re all busy, and many of us don’t have time (or are unwilling to make time) to formally practice mindfulnessskills. However, we can practice informally throughout the day. Here are a couple of examples:1) Mindfulness in Your Morning RoutinePick an activity that constitutes part of your daily morning routine, such as brushing your teeth, shaving, or havinga shower. When you do it, totally focus on what you are doing: the body movements, the taste, the touch, thesmell, the sight, the sound etc.For example, when you’re in the shower, notice the sounds of the water as it sprays out of the nozzle, and as it hitsyour body as it gurgles down the hole. Notice the temperature of the water, and the feel of it in your hair, and onyour shoulders, and running down our legs. Notice the smell of the soap and shampoo, and the feel of themagainst your skin. Notice the sight of the w

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